Did your man have the talk about wanting to see other people or needing a break?
I've got news for you. He wants to break up because there is no longer any internal attraction.
The magnet that draws men and women together is the attraction of both the outer and the inner world. Many women use the outer world to try to hook a man. They do not understand that a man can hang around, sleep with them, love their company and STILL not think about even wanting a relationship.
Yikes! A huge wakeup call if you've been his regular sex partner. A huge blow if you're the kind of feminist who believes that sleeping with a man has nothing to do with being in love.
A man wants to feel attraction for a woman inside of him. He might get happy to look at externals but what really keeps him coming back for more is the strong attraction he feels for the woman he's with. This is called emotional attraction. That something about a woman that pushes him towards her.
So your man might have initially pushed himself towards you but the reason why he's moving away is because that initial attraction decreased. A man won't leave if his attraction feeling level is high.
But don't go feeling like an idiot by making yourself responsible for how a man feels. You must be yourself no matter what and if that means that he's no longer attracted to the person you have become, well so what?
Let him walk!
Nicole Gayle is the Author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - a guide to help you make your breakup work for you. Learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure. Go to http://www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com for an instant download now.
Did Your Man Have the Breakup Talk?
I Dare You To Believe That You Deserve Love
It takes a certain kind of faith, a certain type of will, a certain type of individual to really believe in love in the face of an uncertain situation like a breakup.
If you believe in the little things that make up a relationship and the big moments that comes with it, then you are right to believe that and surely the very things that you believe in will come.
But it may not come in the face who's walking out on you. It may not come in the voice that's telling you - you are unwanted. It may not come in the arms that reject you and it may not come in the dream of trying to hold a broken relationship together. But it will come.
It will come if you don't give up on you and it will come if you continue to believe in love, loyalty, fidelity, faith, purpose, passion. It will come if you believe that you deserve better, that you were born to experience a higher love, a constant love, a never ending love and a love that believes in the face of uncertainty.
This will come to you if you let go, if you begin to command self respect, if you stop begging, if you stop trying to get someone to love you, if you stop trying to reason with someone who no longer wants you.
It will surely come if you draw a line in the sand and say no more to mistreatment. It will surely come if you cut off the supply of belittlement. It will surely come if you grip the arms of failure and say that you will win inspite of it all.
It will come when you dare to believe in you.
Nicole Gayle is the Author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - a guide to help you make your breakup work for you. Learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure. Go to http://www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com/ for an instant download now
The Mistakes You Could Be Making While Dealing With Your Breakup
I've had the chance to help literally hundreds of people know how to handle a breakup based on my personal experience. My breakup was pretty UGLY - not to say that there are any pretty breakups.
You have the mutual breakups, breakups caused by betrayal like cheating or if you're faced with what I was faced with - a partner wanting out of the relationship.
Rejection is not something that is easy for humans to take. You've got to be pretty together to know how to handle a BAD and very messy breakup. You know the kind that goes in the mud where you and your partner are at such opposite ends that you can't imagine ever being with this person.
My breakup was sort of like that and more. Worst of all, it involved my two kids, ages 10 months and 5 at the time. Among other things, I was left on maternity benefits to fend for myself and needless to say that I was literally shaken with fear about my future.
So I did the worst form of disgraceful behavior possible, I appeased my husband and tolerated mountains upon mountains of disrespect because deep on the inside I had hoped that he would see the light and want to have our relationship and family back intact.
Are you making some very fatal mistakes right now dealing with your partner who wants out or with an EX? If you don't know what to you, you too may be viewed like the plague which will earn you even more disrespect and cause your partner to run for cover.
I've put together an e-book to help you know exactly what to do and how to react to a drifting partner or an EX. I want you to be armed with the right information to help you become more attractive, happier and secure. If these strategies worked for me, they can work for you.
Nicole Gayle is the Author of the e-book, What to Do When Your Partner Wants Out, - a guide to help you make your breakup work for you. Learn the secrets to becoming more attractive, happier, and secure.
Go to http://www.whenyourpartnerwantsout.com for an instant download now.
